Have you ever tried to stop thinking about someone or something, but you just haven’t been able to? Have you tried and tried to forget about that ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, ex-husband, ex-wife, or the friend who did you wrong … to no avail? Have you ever gotten frustrated with yourself because you haven’t been able to just move on … even though you’ve tried so hard? If you answered yes to any of those questions, you may have a soul tie.
WHAT IS A SOUL TIE?
A soul tie is a spiritual phenomenon that happens when your soul (your mind, will, and emotions) become linked to another person. Some soul ties are good. For example:
• The loving bond between a godly parent and a child is a holy soul tie. God designed the family so that mothers and fathers and children would be connected to each other in love.
• Another holy soul tie is the relationship between a husband and his wife–one man and one woman, bound together in holy matrimony. When a man and a woman get married, the Bible says that God has joined them together. The two become one flesh, and they are simply two halves of one whole. Husband and wife become one.
• Another example of a godly soul tie could be a godly relationship between a parishioner and his or her pastor. The parishioner can love, honor, and serve the pastor as his/her spiritual leader (always making sure that everything lines up with God’s Word first, of course).
In that situation, with the pastor and his/her sheep, the parishioner can have a real fondness or even brotherly love for the pastor, and the pastor appreciates the parishioner and has a fatherly love for that person. That kind of relationship is a good thing. God’s Word tells us to love and honor our pastors. In all these situations, the bond that forms between the people in these holy relationships is a godly thing. It edifies, encourages, and lifts up both people who have the connection with one another.
But some soul ties are unholy. Instead of being based on a holy relationship, they are based on unholy relationships–or based on situations that keep you in chains (sin). And what started off badly–the relationship–doesn’t get any better just because a bond forms. For example, let’s say you dated someone who abused you. You really loved them, but they weren’t willing to change, so you found the courage to end the relationship. You try to move on, but you just can’t get that person out of your mind. Or maybe …
You used to be married, but your spouse cheated on you and left years ago. You’ve forgiven them, and you really meant it when you did. You don’t harbor any animosity toward your ex. However, you still can’t stop thinking about them. You haven’t been able to get free from the memories of what they did, even though you’ve tried. Or maybe …
You used to be bullied a lot when you were growing up. In the adult world, people no longer bully you; but you still catch yourself shying away from people, thinking that they will. You feel like the bullying happened just yesterday, even though it was years ago. And like the situation above, you may have even forgiven them–but you still suffer from the damage inflicted on you.
In all these situations, chances are that you have a soul tie.
A soul tie is a soul-based attachment to another person. Soul ties can be formed with people you like, but they can also be formed with people you don’t like–or people who have abused you, done you wrong, or left you. The circumstances of your current relationship don’t matter. What matters is that the soul tie exists, and it will remain unless you break it. And soul ties keep you attached, whether you want to be attached or not. A soul tie keeps you thinking about that person all the time, and it keeps them thinking about you. It keeps you from moving on, even if you want really badly to be free.
You can break soul ties. You don’t need to break the holy ones–like the ones with your husband or wife, or any other godly (repeat: godly!) relationship in the Body of Christ. But you definitely want to break the unholy soul ties. So how do you break soul ties? With the Blood of Jesus!
If you’d like to break ungodly soul ties off your life, pray the following prayer OUT LOUD.
“Dear Heavenly Father, I come before You in Jesus’ name. Thank You for buying me back from sin with the blood of Jesus. Jesus, thank You for dying on the cross for me–and for being resurrected so that I might live a victorious, powerful life in You! Jesus, You paid the price with Your own blood so that I might be free in every way, and I receive Your gift of freedom. John 8:34-36 promises that whoever the Son sets free shall be free indeed!! I believe Your Word. I choose to be completely free today.
Father God (Yahweh), in the name of Jesus, I plead the blood of Jesus over this unholy soul tie. In the name of Jesus by His blood, I renounce and BREAK the ungodly soul tie between myself and ___________ (name of ungodly soul tie) formed as a result of _______ (name the sin: fornication, adultery, etc. and be specific). I sever and break this ungodly soul tie and place the blood of Jesus at its root to destroy it. In Jesus’ name, Amen!
In Jesus’ name, let every part of me that has been attached to ___________ (name of ungodly soul tie) be released and returned to me, washed clean with the blood of Jesus, right now. And let every part of __________ (name of ungodly soul tie) that has been attached to me be broken off and return to him/her right now. I ask you Father, to gather all the fragments of my soul and mend it back together as new, in Jesus’ name.
Jesus, thank You for setting me free. I plead Your blood over my body, spirit, soul, mind, will, and emotions. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit afresh and anew. Please help me not to be conformed to this world, but to be transformed by the renewing of my mind through Your Word. Remind me to wash my mind in Your Word every day, Jesus, that I may receive Your truth in all things. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Thank You, Father God. Thank You, Lord Jesus. Thank You, Holy Spirit. I love You, and I give You all the praise. In Jesus’ name, amen.”